Steffen Lindner
from Embassy of Friendship
MA Education, Psychology, Sociology – cert. Psychotherapy providing
Private Counselling & Psychotherapy Services for for Individuals, Couples, Families & Groups
Individual Therapy
Support tailored to you. Whether you're facing anxiety, depression, grief, or major life changes, individual therapy offers a safe space to explore what matters most and find your way forward.
Couples Therapy
Strengthen your connection. From communication struggles to rebuilding trust, couples therapy helps partners navigate challenges and grow closer through guided, open dialogue.
Family Therapy
Foster healthier family dynamics. Family therapy supports better understanding, improved communication, and stronger relationships between parents, children, and other family members.
Group Therapy
You're not alone. Group therapy provides connection, shared experiences, and peer support—guided by a professional therapist—in a safe, confidential setting.
Hello! I’m Steffen
I am a German Psychologist and Education Scientist, Private Counsellor, Mindfullness Facilitator and Therapist – certified in Psychotherapy
How I can help?
Relationship Counseling
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From improving communication to addressing conflicts, I help clients foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships in both personal and professional life.
Stress Management
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Helping clients recognize and navigate stress triggers, I provide strategies for fostering balance and resilience in everyday life.
Support For Men
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With years of experience working closely with men in therapeutic groups and one-on-one settings, I offer tailored counseling for men seeking to grow as individuals, partners, and fathers. Whether addressing emotional resilience, navigating relational dynamics, or striving for personal transformation, my approach creates a safe, confidential space for men to explore and grow.
Family Member Conflict
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Family conflict can be painful—but it often reflects deeper patterns, not just individual struggles. As a therapist, I work systemically, meaning I look at the whole family dynamic: how roles, communication, and relationships shape each person’s experience. This approach isn’t about blame—it’s about understanding. Together, we explore what’s beneath the tension and create space for healing, clarity, and connection. Change becomes possible when the system shifts, even gently.
Migration & International Work
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I specialize in supporting individuals and families navigating migration, immigration, and international transitions. Whether adjusting to life in New Zealand or overcoming challenges related to cultural identity and belonging, I provide practical tools and empathetic guidance for adapting to new environments.
Identity and Purpose
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For individuals seeking greater clarity about who they are and what drives them, I offer a reflective space to explore values, aspirations, and a deeper sense of purpose.
Depression
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Support for individuals experiencing sadness, fatigue, or hopelessness. Together, we work to uncover the roots of depression and build pathways toward resilience, meaning, and joy.
Anger Management
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As an experienced anger management counsellor and mindfulness facilitator, I specialize in guiding individuals, including those referred by police, toward greater emotional resilience and personal growth. My practical approach, honed through years of working with diverse clients, focuses on uncovering the root causes of anger, developing effective coping mechanisms, and integrating mindfulness techniques to foster self-awareness, stress reduction, and healthier responses, ultimately creating a safe and supportive space for lasting positive change in managing anger and improving relationships.
Greif & Loss
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Coping with loss is a deeply personal journey. I provide a safe space for clients to process grief and find healing pathways that honor their experiences.
Life Transitions
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Significant life changes can feel overwhelming—whether it’s a career shift, parenthood, or loss. I help clients navigate these transitions, empowering them with tools to adapt and thrive.
Anxiety
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I offer practical tools to help manage overwhelming thoughts, fears, and physical symptoms of anxiety, guiding clients toward calm and clarity through mindfulness and behavioral strategies.
Isolation & Loneliness
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If you’re feeling lonely or isolated, you’re not broken—you’re human. In my practice, I offer a safe, compassionate space where your experience is honored. Using a client-centered approach and insights from positive psychology, we explore ways to reconnect—with yourself, with others, and with what gives life meaning. You don’t have to face this alone.
Trauma Recovery
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Providing a safe and compassionate environment, I support clients in processing traumatic experiences and rebuilding trust in themselves and the world around them.
Self-Esteem & Confidence
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I empower clients to overcome self-doubt, embrace their strengths, and work toward personal goals with greater confidence and clarity.
Mindfulness
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Teaching mindfulness techniques, I help clients enhance self-awareness, manage emotions, and cultivate a sense of calm in their daily lives.
My Approaches
Client Cenetered Thearpy
Empowering Authentic Growth
Rooted in the groundbreaking work of Carl Rogers, Client-Centered Therapy is one of the core approaches I embrace in my practice. Its principles of empathy, unconditional positive regard, and authenticity resonate deeply with my belief in creating a safe and supportive environment where clients can explore their innermost thoughts and feelings.
What is Client-Centered Therapy?
Client-Centered Therapy is a humanistic approach that places the client at the heart of the therapeutic process. Rather than focusing on diagnoses or directives, this method emphasizes understanding the client’s experience and fostering their innate capacity for growth. By creating a non-judgmental and empathetic space, it empowers clients to navigate their challenges and develop a stronger sense of self.
Why I Use Client-Centered Therapy
– Respecting Individual Experiences
This approach values the uniqueness of each client’s journey, allowing me to truly listen and understand their perspective. It aligns with my commitment to creating safe spaces for authentic exploration and emotional growth.
– Fostering Self-Discovery
Client-Centered Therapy supports clients in discovering their own solutions rather than imposing external guidance. This focus on self-discovery helps individuals build confidence in their ability to make meaningful choices and take charge of their lives.
– Building Trust and Rapport
Central to this method is the relationship between the client and therapist. By offering empathy, authenticity, and unconditional positive regard, I strive to cultivate trust and rapport, creating a foundation for effective and transformative therapy.
– Encouraging Emotional Growth
This approach is deeply aligned with my belief in fostering emotional resilience. It provides clients with the tools to explore their feelings and develop a stronger sense of self-worth and authenticity.
– Versatility Across Challenges
Client-Centered Therapy is applicable to a wide range of issues, from anxiety and depression to navigating life transitions and relationship dynamics. Its adaptability makes it a valuable tool in supporting clients through diverse experiences.
The Advantages of Client-Centered Therapy
By prioritizing empathy and authenticity, this method empowers clients to embrace their strengths, trust their inner wisdom, and find meaning in their experiences. It creates a nurturing environment for personal growth, helping individuals build resilience, deepen self-awareness, and foster authentic connections with others.
Gestalt Thearpy
Embracing the Whole Self
As a German therapist and counsellor, I integrate various psychological approaches into my practice, and Gestalt therapy holds a special place among them. This humanistic and experiential approach aligns seamlessly with my belief in the transformative potential of authentic, present-moment experiences.
What is Gestalt Therapy?
Gestalt therapy, developed by Fritz Perls, focuses on exploring and integrating all aspects of an individual—the mind, body, and emotions—into a cohesive whole. It emphasizes the “here and now” and encourages clients to take an active role in their self-discovery, fostering awareness of their thoughts, feelings, and actions in the present moment.
Why I Use Gestalt Therapy in My Practice
– A Holistic Approach
Gestalt therapy enables me to work with the whole person rather than addressing isolated symptoms. It acknowledges the intricate relationship between an individual’s emotions, physical sensations, and behaviors, paving the way for profound self-awareness and growth.
– Emphasizing Personal Responsibility
This approach empowers clients by fostering awareness of their choices and encouraging them to take responsibility for their lives. It’s a powerful way to help clients move from feeling “stuck” to embracing their inner agency.
– Relational Dynamics
As someone deeply invested in exploring relationships and personal growth, I find Gestalt therapy’s focus on the client-therapist relationship incredibly effective. It creates a safe, collaborative space for exploring relational patterns and fostering authentic connections.
– Working with the Present Moment
Gestalt therapy’s emphasis on the “here and now” allows clients to confront and process their immediate experiences, creating opportunities for insight and healing in real-time. This presence-centered approach resonates deeply with my commitment to mindfulness and emotional growth.
– Creativity and Flexibility
I appreciate the creative and integrative nature of Gestalt techniques, such as role-playing, the “empty chair” exercise, and dialogue experiments. These tools inspire dynamic and engaging therapeutic sessions, tailored to the unique needs of each client.
The Benefits of Gestalt Therapy
By facilitating greater self-awareness and emotional integration, Gestalt therapy helps clients build healthier relationships, enhance emotional resilience, and navigate life transitions with confidence. It’s a powerful approach to unlocking one’s potential and embracing life as a fully engaged, authentic individual.
Cognitive Behaviour Thearpy
Reshaping Thought Patterns
As part of my integrative therapeutic approach, I often turn to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) to help clients address and transform the ways they think and behave. This evidence-based method is a cornerstone of psychological treatment, and its structured, goal-oriented nature makes it an effective tool for creating lasting change.
What is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy?
CBT is a short-term, focused therapeutic approach that explores the interplay between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It aims to identify and challenge negative thought patterns and replace them with healthier, more constructive perspectives. By addressing the cognitive roots of emotional distress, CBT fosters resilience and emotional balance.
Why I Incorporate CBT in My Practice
– A Collaborative and Structured Method
CBT thrives on collaboration between the client and therapist. Together, we identify specific challenges and create tailored strategies to address them. Its structured nature provides clarity and focus, making it easier for clients to track their progress and see tangible results.
– Empowering Clients Through Awareness
CBT empowers clients by helping them recognize the connection between their thoughts and actions. This awareness enables them to break free from destructive patterns, paving the way for meaningful change and personal growth.
– Practical Tools and Techniques
The approach is rich with practical techniques, such as cognitive restructuring, journaling, and exposure exercises. These tools equip clients with actionable strategies that they can use in their everyday lives, fostering long-term resilience.
– Grounded in Evidence-Based Practices
As a method supported by extensive research, CBT has proven effective across a wide range of issues, including anxiety, depression, and stress management. Its reliability and adaptability make it a valuable resource in my therapeutic toolkit.
– Focus on Empowerment and Self-Efficacy
CBT centers on building the client’s self-efficacy—the belief in their ability to influence their own life. Supporting clients in cultivating this inner confidence aligns with my commitment to fostering emotional resilience and personal empowerment.
The Advantages of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy
CBT offers clients a clear and actionable framework for addressing their challenges. By reshaping negative thought patterns and developing constructive habits, it helps individuals build emotional resilience, improve their relationships, and navigate life’s difficulties with greater confidence. It’s a transformative approach to creating positive, lasting change.
Positive Psychotherapy
A Strength-Based Path to Healing
As a registered member of the New Zealand Association for Positive Psychology (NZAPP), I am deeply committed to approaches that nurture emotional resilience and personal growth. Positive Psychotherapy is one of the foundational methods I use, as it aligns beautifully with my belief in fostering a balanced and resource-focused perspective on life’s challenges.
What is Positive Psychotherapy?
Rooted in positive psychology, Positive Psychotherapy takes a holistic approach, exploring not only the difficulties and conflicts in life but also the strengths, values, and resources that can help individuals overcome them. It focuses on fostering meaning, hope, and well-being, empowering clients to unlock their potential and embrace a fulfilling life.
Why Positive Psychotherapy Resonates With Me
– Focus on Strengths and Resources
This approach emphasizes identifying and cultivating each client’s unique strengths and inner resources. By shifting the focus from deficits to possibilities, it inspires hope and resilience—a process I find incredibly empowering for clients.
– Creating Balance
Positive Psychotherapy highlights the interplay between life’s challenges and joys. It encourages clients to achieve harmony across different aspects of life, from personal growth and relationships to work and leisure, fostering a sense of wholeness.
– Practical Tools for Transformation
This method offers practical, solution-focused tools that clients can integrate into their daily lives, helping them navigate difficulties and build a foundation for sustained well-being.
– Alignment with Positive Psychology
Being deeply passionate about positive psychology, I value how this approach dovetails with its principles—encouraging gratitude, optimism, and the cultivation of positive emotions as a pathway to healing and growth.
– Encouraging Personal Empowerment
Positive Psychotherapy centers on the client’s role as an active participant in their healing journey. I find it deeply fulfilling to support clients as they take ownership of their strengths and choices, building a life aligned with their values.
The Benefits of Positive Psychotherapy
By highlighting personal resources and fostering emotional resilience, Positive Psychotherapy helps clients face life transitions, navigate relationships, and find meaning and purpose in life. It’s a compassionate and empowering approach that supports clients in creating balance and embracing their authentic selves.
Family Thearpy
Transforming Family Connections Through Therapy
Welcome to a space where families find healing and deeper connections. With years of experience in family dynamics, I specialize in helping fathers, mothers, and children navigate the challenges of relational growth. My approach is deeply rooted in understanding the unique needs and strengths of each family member, fostering an environment where every voice is heard.
Drawing inspiration from the pioneering work of Virginia Satir, I emphasize open communication as the cornerstone of family transformation. Here, every individual has the opportunity to share their perspectives, emotions, and aspirations. This approach empowers families to build mutual understanding and rediscover harmony.
In addition, I incorporate Family Systemic Constellations, a profound method for exploring hidden patterns and relational dynamics within the family system. By uncovering and addressing these deeper layers, families often experience transformative shifts that lead to stronger bonds and emotional resilience.
My sessions are designed to create a safe and empathetic space, whether you’re seeking to resolve conflicts, strengthen relationships, or embrace change. Together, we’ll embark on a journey toward healthier and happier connections.
I also offer Supervision, Coaching, Mindfulness Awareness Practice and Systemic Constilation Work
Approach & Values
In my therapeutic practice, the “I-Thou” relationship takes center stage—a space where your “inner- authentic Self” and the “outside world” come into balanced dialogue. Together, we cultivate a safe and supportive environment where every emotion, thought, sensation, and desire is welcomed. This allows for personal exploration and meaningful growth.
I utilize a client-centered approach, incorporating methods from Gestalt therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Through CBT, we focus on identifying and reshaping thought patterns that influence behavior and emotions, fostering lasting change and improved mental health. The aim is to reconnect with your inner vitality, uncover strengths, and address barriers that may be holding you back. Our work helps you make empowered decisions while nurturing deeper emotional connections.
A key emphasis lies in grounding your awareness in the present moment—free from the distractions of past regrets or future anxieties. This mindfulness-based approach invites direct contact with life and fosters self-awareness. Reflective questions guide our journey: How do I survive challenges? How do shame or guilt impact my relationships? How do I access my inner strengths? Together, we explore these questions, creating opportunities to harmonize internal forces and embrace developmental transitions as moments for growth.
Trust forms the foundation of our work—a cornerstone built through genuine presence, empathy, and unconditional positive regard. This nurturing environment enables vulnerability and self-discovery, paving the way for transformative insights. The therapeutic alliance is much more than a formal dialogue; it is a collaborative partnership honoring your story and emotional complexity without judgment or external expectations.
Time is valued as an essential ally in the therapeutic process. Lasting change unfolds gradually, allowing for reflection, integration of new perspectives, and the gentle emergence of transformative insights. Each session honours your pace, nurturing a rhythm of healing that respects your unique journey.
Ultimately, our counselling sessions become a sanctuary for discovery, emotional well-being, and self-acceptance. Using mindfulness techniques, positive psychology, and CBT, we embark on a journey toward a more integrated and meaningful life—together. Let’s embrace this empowering path forward.
Kia ora - A warm Hello!
I'm Steffen
I am a qualified Diplom-Paedagoge with studies in in Psychology, Education and Sociology (NZQA Level 8 qualification). I am working as a private Counsellor and Therapist, certified in Psychotherapy. I immigrated from Germany to New Zealand in 2009 and I am living and working since then in Whitianga, on the beautiful Coromandel Peninsula. I am the father of two children - a daughter and a son.
For more than 25 years, I’ve supported individuals, couples, families, and groups around the world as they navigate life’s challenges and transitions.
Alongside my formal training, I bring decades of experience, deep understanding, and well‑developed therapeutic skills into our relationship — offering empathy, clarity, and gentle inspiration to help you feel safer, more awake to yourself, and more able to create the changes you long for.
If you feel it’s time for support, you’re warmly invited to reach out.
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